lookwhatimadeforbreakfast asked: do you consider yourself a "success" now? if not, at what point would you consider yourself "successful?"
I was out with friends shortly after selling the book based on its proposal, and one friend who’s written a few books congratulated me. I crossed my fingers and said, “We’ll see, we’ll see, I still have to finish writing the actual book.”
He shouted, “No. Uncross your fingers. If you’re crossing your fingers now, you’ll be crossing them when you give your editor your first draft, and you’ll be crossing them when the book comes out, and you’ll be crossing them as you wait for your first review. If you don’t uncross them now, you never will.”
I was out with some other friends recently and a few people were feeling like their creative lives weren’t where they wished they’d be, even though they were all creating fantastic work.
I said, “What would yourself five years ago think if they could see what you were doing right now?” Most of us agreed that our younger selves would think we’d “made it.” But it didn’t feel that way anymore because we’d all raised the bar higher for ourselves.
So, I’d say:
The only thing you can value is the work you put in every day, not any of the results. If I sit and get work done instead of BSing online, it is a successful day.